Think together not alike

I guess I'm just making up for lost time, but I wanted to share some thoughts today that have been on my mind. One of the things that I enjoy about the dating relationship that I'm in is the conversations we have. I feel very fortunate to have found someone who is an excellent verbal communicator.
She asked me recently about my approach to parenting and what I felt about parents having different styles. It was then that I was reminded of some advice I had been given early in my career and that I had shared with my oldest brother and his bride on their wedding day. "The point is not to think alike but to think together." I lectured today on relationships and dating and I again found myself being drawn to this piece of advice. All too often, we think that we have to think alike when what is needed is to think together.
Most people have probably at heard of the book "The Five Love Languages." In the same conversation, we talked about our different love languages. My experience has been that no matter how much you attempt to explain your love language to someone, they will insist on speaking their own native love language. I've been impressed with her efforts to speak my language, especially since it is not her own. So, if you're reading this, I think you're doing a great job learning about me and trying to show that you care by speaking my complex language. (you've earned a cupcake for that!)
It seems to me that relationships are only complicated when we attempt to do things that are not natural to us. We forget that it is in our nature to couple, so being in a couple relationship should be natural to us. If that's true, coupling can't be in the problem. I think the problem is we have, as a society, bought into the notion that we are supposed to struggle and get frustrated being "men won't communicate, and women won't just say what they're thinking." I can't agree with that anymore. I think the problem is that we forget that we are unique individuals who bring different things to the table and if we were use those difference, our relationships would thrive. So, go out there and take the chance to think together and experience love like never before.